It has been such a nightmare looking for a school for my daughter. There are more people in the world, but government still has the same amount of schools. Something needs to be done to address this issue, it used to be in the movies where you hear people applying for their children for Grade R when they are six months old. Now it is a reality that as soon as you have given birth and you have a birth certificate you need to apply for school for your child. This is ridiculous!
Gone are the days when a parent could go in January looking for school. Now you have to apply in advance, 4 to 5 years before they even get there. Never mind that pre-school and primary school fees cost more than what we pay at university level, CPUT to be specific. The quality of education is not as good, but as parents we have to pay so much money, it doesn't make sense.
Friday, November 18, 2011
21st century woman
Being a woman living in the modern times is different to a woman who lived 50 years ago. Well even then it was a start of women coming into the work place. The modern woman is expected to be in the kitchen and the boardroom. If you dare say you want to be a housewife, other women look at you funny. It is no longer acceptable amongst women themselves to want to be a housewife, not that I want to be one...I'm just saying my point of view.
Modern woman is so used to fitting the bill that even when she's on a date, she wants to pay. I think the reversal or change of roles has made women change, instead of playing the supportive role they have more of a leading role. I believe this has had an effect on man and woman relationship, in terms of how they value each other, are able to work together, build a home and build a community. You have men that just want to have children without the commitment of marriage...who's going to father those children? These messed up roles and lack of commitment have made our chaotic society.
I think this world needs more responsible men to be fathers so that mothers can do the nurturing. It doesn't matter even if women are CEOs, it doesn't take away the fact that only women can give birth and it is a man's role to lead a home. So ladies stop being CEOs at home and men take your chair and lead your home.
Modern woman is so used to fitting the bill that even when she's on a date, she wants to pay. I think the reversal or change of roles has made women change, instead of playing the supportive role they have more of a leading role. I believe this has had an effect on man and woman relationship, in terms of how they value each other, are able to work together, build a home and build a community. You have men that just want to have children without the commitment of marriage...who's going to father those children? These messed up roles and lack of commitment have made our chaotic society.
I think this world needs more responsible men to be fathers so that mothers can do the nurturing. It doesn't matter even if women are CEOs, it doesn't take away the fact that only women can give birth and it is a man's role to lead a home. So ladies stop being CEOs at home and men take your chair and lead your home.
Striking a balance
This year has certainly been challenging for me, each year it has been getting harder being away from my daughter (Zenande) and my son (Mthawelanga). It seemed easier not to focus on leaving them behind, while I was in pursuit of my career or studies. I always had at the back of my mind that I'm doing all this for them, now why is it getting harder? Some things are really easier said than done.
Being a single, studying and working mom is really a challenge, but if other women could do it why can't I. It's all for my little angels and one day I realised that this is all a rat race. I'm chasing something that will take me time to achieve so I think it's time to take the next step. While I continue with my studies I want my children to live with me and for them to share in my challenges and to grow with me. Being a young mom has its challenges, positive ones as well.
I'm now looking forward to the next journey of my life of staying with my children. My daughter is starting Grade 1 next year and it has been a nightmare trying to find a school for her. With the challenges I have had as a mother, I ask myself how did my mother do it? Big ups to all the single parents, please write blogs and tell me how you did it.
Being a single, studying and working mom is really a challenge, but if other women could do it why can't I. It's all for my little angels and one day I realised that this is all a rat race. I'm chasing something that will take me time to achieve so I think it's time to take the next step. While I continue with my studies I want my children to live with me and for them to share in my challenges and to grow with me. Being a young mom has its challenges, positive ones as well.
I'm now looking forward to the next journey of my life of staying with my children. My daughter is starting Grade 1 next year and it has been a nightmare trying to find a school for her. With the challenges I have had as a mother, I ask myself how did my mother do it? Big ups to all the single parents, please write blogs and tell me how you did it.
Favourite Poem by Erykah Badu
Erykah Badu is one of my favourite artists and her music is definitely underground. In her music, she says things I want to say except she has a beautiful singing voice and lyrics to support her creativeness. To those who don't know I'm a soul sister and below is one of my favourite poems written by Erykah. You will find this poem on her album 'Mama's Gun'
the warrior reminder
i am awake
my mind is free
i am creative
i love myself
my willpower is strong
i am brave
i practice patience
i don't judge folks
i give, not to receive
i don't expect
i accept
i listen more than i talk
i know i'll change
i know you'll change
i''ll hold on one more day
i start over when necessary
i create my own situations
i am cosmic
i do not have the answers
i desire to learn
i am the plan
i am strong
i am weak
i want to grow
i know i will
i take on responsibility
i hide myself from no one
i'm on my path
warriors walk alone
i won't let my focus change
taking out the demons in my range
that's mama's gun
by: E. Badu
the warrior reminder
i am awake
my mind is free
i am creative
i love myself
my willpower is strong
i am brave
i practice patience
i don't judge folks
i give, not to receive
i don't expect
i accept
i listen more than i talk
i know i'll change
i know you'll change
i''ll hold on one more day
i start over when necessary
i create my own situations
i am cosmic
i do not have the answers
i desire to learn
i am the plan
i am strong
i am weak
i want to grow
i know i will
i take on responsibility
i hide myself from no one
i'm on my path
warriors walk alone
i won't let my focus change
taking out the demons in my range
that's mama's gun
by: E. Badu
"Nothing is more dangerous than an idea, when you only have one idea." (Alain)
I disagree with this comment, I think it's better when you have one idea. When you have one idea, you know that's all you have and you have to give it your best shot. You find that students who qualify at university to study one course, they have no choice but to make it work. When you have many options sometimes you mess it up trying to figure out what option you should choose. You could find yourself with nothing because you can't decide.
When I realised that my calling is in the Communication industry, I made it work. Before I realised this I considered being a stockbroker, an economist, lawyer (in grade 8/9), journalist and I also thought of being a psychiatrist, my mom told me a straight no. Thanks mom for saving me, this is what options or more than one idea can do to you...confuse you.
You can definitely make your one idea work and modify it until it's the best idea. What is dangerous is having more than one idea or no idea at all.
When I realised that my calling is in the Communication industry, I made it work. Before I realised this I considered being a stockbroker, an economist, lawyer (in grade 8/9), journalist and I also thought of being a psychiatrist, my mom told me a straight no. Thanks mom for saving me, this is what options or more than one idea can do to you...confuse you.
You can definitely make your one idea work and modify it until it's the best idea. What is dangerous is having more than one idea or no idea at all.
How hard is it to follow instructions?
Reading instructions is easy, interpreting them is more of a challenge and the following them is hard. The reason for this is that you're not in the frame of mind as the person writing the instructions. The person writing instructions has an objective and those are not always clear or made clear to the person following them.
I think instructions are generally hard to follow when you are nervous. When you are in a test or exam for some strange reason george (English) just leaves you then all of a sudden things you know don't make sense. Nervousness kicks common sense out of the window.
A test or exam environment makes it hard to follow instructions. As a student it always feels like the lecturer is out to get you. The lecturers say they are not, but it just always feels that way.
Instructions are meant to make things easier, but they seem to confuse and make matters worse. Honestly sometimes I don't follow instructions...well I guess it answers the question above.
I think instructions are generally hard to follow when you are nervous. When you are in a test or exam for some strange reason george (English) just leaves you then all of a sudden things you know don't make sense. Nervousness kicks common sense out of the window.
A test or exam environment makes it hard to follow instructions. As a student it always feels like the lecturer is out to get you. The lecturers say they are not, but it just always feels that way.
Instructions are meant to make things easier, but they seem to confuse and make matters worse. Honestly sometimes I don't follow instructions...well I guess it answers the question above.
Andy Warhol said, ''In future everybody will be world famous for fifteen minutes." You can't choose the 15 minutes but why would you be world famous?
I hadn't thought of myself becoming world famous because I've always thought of myself as the underground cat. I like to be heard, but not necessarily seen that's why I love radio. But anyways that's a topic for another day.
If I were to be world famous for fifteen minutes, it would be for starting an African radio movement. This would be a movement where all african countries can through radio and address issues. Not the politicians addressing their issues, but just ordinary people talking and discussing the way forward for Africans. African does not exclude a race, religion or culture we're all stuck together so let's just make it work.
This movement would assist in decreasing xenophia in our country. It hurts me to see black on black crime and how we can't build each other up. We all need to speak one voice, we're all in this continent called Africa. I really like the phenomenon behind the National Development Plan, I really hope it's something we can work towards without seeing what we can't do, but try what we are capable of doing. I think more than anything it is about changing our frame of mind then after that anything is possible.
If I were to be world famous for fifteen minutes, it would be for starting an African radio movement. This would be a movement where all african countries can through radio and address issues. Not the politicians addressing their issues, but just ordinary people talking and discussing the way forward for Africans. African does not exclude a race, religion or culture we're all stuck together so let's just make it work.
This movement would assist in decreasing xenophia in our country. It hurts me to see black on black crime and how we can't build each other up. We all need to speak one voice, we're all in this continent called Africa. I really like the phenomenon behind the National Development Plan, I really hope it's something we can work towards without seeing what we can't do, but try what we are capable of doing. I think more than anything it is about changing our frame of mind then after that anything is possible.
A skill set called leadership
Some people are born to lead and some have to be taught to lead. Leadership is about having influence so people can follow you. A leader cannot lead if there are no followers and there can't be followers without a leader.
The influence that a leader has can either be positive or negative. As we know there are great leaders that led people to destruction. Looking at leaders like Stalin, Hitler and Mugabe, these leaders had/have great power to influence their followers.
Leadership is a great skill to have, however there are people who confuse threatening or bullying people with leadership. Followers willingly abide with instructions given by their leaders and believe what their leader is saying to be correct.
The influence that a leader has can either be positive or negative. As we know there are great leaders that led people to destruction. Looking at leaders like Stalin, Hitler and Mugabe, these leaders had/have great power to influence their followers.
Leadership is a great skill to have, however there are people who confuse threatening or bullying people with leadership. Followers willingly abide with instructions given by their leaders and believe what their leader is saying to be correct.
Saturday, November 12, 2011
"Rock journalism is people who can't write interviewing people who can't talk for people who can't read" (Frank Zappa) - Comment
Commenting on the subject is challenging as I have no singing abilities let alone critique music especially rock. I'm not a fan of rock music because I can't always make-out what they're saying.
The music instruments tend to overpower their lyrics at least for me that is. The same applies to hip-hop and rap.
It is difficult and it would bre unfair to critique artists when you can't hear their message.
Or maybe that is the criticism, what is your message?
I can't hear you. Music is a form of art, I believe artists have to be respected for their work.
Different genres of music targets different folks.
The music instruments tend to overpower their lyrics at least for me that is. The same applies to hip-hop and rap.
It is difficult and it would bre unfair to critique artists when you can't hear their message.
Or maybe that is the criticism, what is your message?
I can't hear you. Music is a form of art, I believe artists have to be respected for their work.
Different genres of music targets different folks.
List your top 200 achievements
I won't have 200 achievements, I haven't lived that long. In an attempt to want to write as many achievements as I can I will start listing my achievements from as far back as I can. The first two are certainly not my personal achievements, but they are more family achievements and yes I'm proud of my great-grand parents.
1. Born into a family of the first black Professor at the University of Fort Hare. My ultimate dream would be the second Professor in the family.
2. Great grandfather started a Xhosa newspaper 'Imvo Zabantsundu', this was in the late 1800s close to the time when slavery was banished.
3. Top of class in Grade 4
4. Awarded a trophy for Majorette...can't remember why
5. Played 1st team hockey in Grade 7
6. Started a trend in high with two friends for black people to join Debating Society
7. Received first Cultural Badge in Grade 9, can't count how many I received thereafter almost every term
8. Won Gold Award for Public Speaking at Grahamstown Eisteddfod
9. Won Silver Award for Poetry..recited 'Let me not to the marriage of true minds' - William Shakespeare
10. Won Bronze Award for a Monologue
11. Won Gold Award for a play
12. Won Gold Award fo a play at Clarendon Eisteddfod
13. Part of cast that came first place - Interhouse Plays
14. Received half-colours
15. Received full colours blazer
16. Winning debates..don't know how many
17. Winning hockey matches and remaining being unbeaten the whole season
18. Passed Matric with Exemption
19. Winning Silver Medal for Squash - USSASA Regional Games
20. Three distinction first year of studying ND Taxation & Auditing
21. Elected as Treasurer of SASCO BEC at Natal Tech
22. Team of the Month Award x 3 - SARS
23. Top Ten Agent of the Month x 3
24. Acting as teamleader
25. Birth of my daughter
26. Birth of my son
27. Stopped smoking
28. Getting a bursary to study PR
29. Studied ND PR and passed in record time
30. Studied BTECH PR and passed in record time
31. Group Leader & Won Best Open Day Exhibition ( it was a tie)
32. Have over 10 distinction for the first three years of my study
33. Academic Giant for 3 consecutive years
34. Breaking record getting 100% for a Comm Sci Test
35. Graduated in 2011
36. Graduating in 2012
37. Part of LOC for PRISM Awards 2011
38. Organized and cordinated launch of PRISA Student Chapter in Western Cape
39. Drafting the constitution for PRISA Student Chapter
40. Working at City of Cape Town
AND COUNTING...
1. Born into a family of the first black Professor at the University of Fort Hare. My ultimate dream would be the second Professor in the family.
2. Great grandfather started a Xhosa newspaper 'Imvo Zabantsundu', this was in the late 1800s close to the time when slavery was banished.
3. Top of class in Grade 4
4. Awarded a trophy for Majorette...can't remember why
5. Played 1st team hockey in Grade 7
6. Started a trend in high with two friends for black people to join Debating Society
7. Received first Cultural Badge in Grade 9, can't count how many I received thereafter almost every term
8. Won Gold Award for Public Speaking at Grahamstown Eisteddfod
9. Won Silver Award for Poetry..recited 'Let me not to the marriage of true minds' - William Shakespeare
10. Won Bronze Award for a Monologue
11. Won Gold Award for a play
12. Won Gold Award fo a play at Clarendon Eisteddfod
13. Part of cast that came first place - Interhouse Plays
14. Received half-colours
15. Received full colours blazer
16. Winning debates..don't know how many
17. Winning hockey matches and remaining being unbeaten the whole season
18. Passed Matric with Exemption
19. Winning Silver Medal for Squash - USSASA Regional Games
20. Three distinction first year of studying ND Taxation & Auditing
21. Elected as Treasurer of SASCO BEC at Natal Tech
22. Team of the Month Award x 3 - SARS
23. Top Ten Agent of the Month x 3
24. Acting as teamleader
25. Birth of my daughter
26. Birth of my son
27. Stopped smoking
28. Getting a bursary to study PR
29. Studied ND PR and passed in record time
30. Studied BTECH PR and passed in record time
31. Group Leader & Won Best Open Day Exhibition ( it was a tie)
32. Have over 10 distinction for the first three years of my study
33. Academic Giant for 3 consecutive years
34. Breaking record getting 100% for a Comm Sci Test
35. Graduated in 2011
36. Graduating in 2012
37. Part of LOC for PRISM Awards 2011
38. Organized and cordinated launch of PRISA Student Chapter in Western Cape
39. Drafting the constitution for PRISA Student Chapter
40. Working at City of Cape Town
AND COUNTING...
What motivates me?
My children motivate me to dream big and work towards my dreams. I want to become a better person and I look at life differently because of them. Life is more than just about money, but it is also about relationships. It is about the kind of relationship I have with my children.
Now I know I'm their role model before they look for one elsewhere. What I think of them means a lot them, it has an effect on how they will view themselves later in their lives. My children have taught me to love more and to practice a bit of patience especially where they are concerned.
What used to motivate me is money, but now I understand that it is there to make life easier FINANCIALLY. Money doesn't guarantee happiness. My love for my children definitely motivates me to push boundaries and want to be the best. I don't like being second best anyways.
Now I know I'm their role model before they look for one elsewhere. What I think of them means a lot them, it has an effect on how they will view themselves later in their lives. My children have taught me to love more and to practice a bit of patience especially where they are concerned.
What used to motivate me is money, but now I understand that it is there to make life easier FINANCIALLY. Money doesn't guarantee happiness. My love for my children definitely motivates me to push boundaries and want to be the best. I don't like being second best anyways.
Write a list: the 10 most unexpected consequences of being online
1. Having a friend tag you on pictures you don't want posted on facebook
2. Having the right people access the wrong information about you
3. Having a stalker
4. Finding out you've inherited a million rand from a 'relative' you never knew existed...those scams!
5. You have people you've never heard of claiming to be your friend
6. Finding out your friend is getting married on a social network, but she 'forgot' to tell you
7. The guy who was not HOT in high school is married with children and he's rich as well
8. The under-achievers in high school are the over-achiever in their careers
9. Facebook showing on the 'people you may know' list someone who's passed away
10. An old friend changing her name online to a name you've never heard of...not her second name.
2. Having the right people access the wrong information about you
3. Having a stalker
4. Finding out you've inherited a million rand from a 'relative' you never knew existed...those scams!
5. You have people you've never heard of claiming to be your friend
6. Finding out your friend is getting married on a social network, but she 'forgot' to tell you
7. The guy who was not HOT in high school is married with children and he's rich as well
8. The under-achievers in high school are the over-achiever in their careers
9. Facebook showing on the 'people you may know' list someone who's passed away
10. An old friend changing her name online to a name you've never heard of...not her second name.
The elephant in the room
Firstly, I'm not quite sure why an elephant would be in a room. How did it get there? How would it get out? My neighbours would certainly call the SPCA on me or would the zoo be the appropriate place? M.J. would be the best person to consult on this matter because he had two giraffes.
The only concepts that come to mind with an elephant in the room, it's blowing things out of proportion. I know I'm guilty of blowing things out of proportion, making a problem bigger than it is. It is a survival mechanism of course, trying to lower expectation so that I can over deliver. It's certainly better than over promising and under delivering. In PR, your reputation and your image is always at stake, you can't afford such mistakes it could cost your career.
The only concepts that come to mind with an elephant in the room, it's blowing things out of proportion. I know I'm guilty of blowing things out of proportion, making a problem bigger than it is. It is a survival mechanism of course, trying to lower expectation so that I can over deliver. It's certainly better than over promising and under delivering. In PR, your reputation and your image is always at stake, you can't afford such mistakes it could cost your career.
Every day is a good day
Every day has its own fair share of challenges, but it's up to you how you view them. Every day life can be such drag depending on your mindset and this generally determines how you cope or get through life's challenges. The optimistic view is that in life there are challenges and lessons to be learnt.
Hey, don't get me wrong, I don't always think "yey! there's a life challenge and there's a lesson to be learnt". Honestly we could all do with an easy day without challenges and everyday would be good day. The question we need to ask ourselves is, would we achieve all we have without those challenges? For me, every day is a good day because I'm a day closer to my dream.
Hey, don't get me wrong, I don't always think "yey! there's a life challenge and there's a lesson to be learnt". Honestly we could all do with an easy day without challenges and everyday would be good day. The question we need to ask ourselves is, would we achieve all we have without those challenges? For me, every day is a good day because I'm a day closer to my dream.
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