I am very talkative and I believe I have constructive conversations with people. I believe in expressing myself and my views. I'm not the type of person who lets things pass me by. If I have an opinion on something, you're most def going to hear it. Don't get me wrong, I'm not the complaining type, I'm solutions, solutions and more solutions type of girl.
Some will say talk is cheap, but I talk a lot and I'm all actions. I think it depends on what you're talking about really. When I talk it is about remaining positive and having a positive outlook on life. Life has its challenges and people need to be truthful and talk about issues. The reason there are so many problems in the world, people act as if everything is fine when it's not. When things are fine people want to talk and when they're not issues are pushed under the carpet.
In life you just need to be a practical person, communication is always needed otherwise how do you know what you are doing is right or wrong? I think it is better that people talk a lot and talk about solutions, not problems. Practice is the second step after talking. If we put 100% to everything we do, we will talk well and practice well. There needs to be a balance between the two.
Monday, May 9, 2011
Sunday, May 8, 2011
"Come now kids, come meet Uncle Sfiso!"
I am now faced with the next phase of the baby mama drama. This is introducing my partner to my kids. There are many things going through my mind. How will my kids react to this? Is the right time to do the introduction/ Are they ready for this? Is he ready for this? Is the timing right or should I do this later? What do I introduce him as uncle, mommy's boyfriend, mommy's colleague, mommy's friend, your future stepfather or just use his name? What if the relationship doesn't last? These are difficult questions to ponder.
There is no right way of doing this. It is though time for the next step of our relationship. We have been seeing each other for some time and he knows that I have kids. He doesn't have kids of his own, but he's willing to take my whole package. Now it is time to deal with the reality of taking my whole package.
My whole life has been revolved around my children their happiness and ensuring they are comfortable. I have fears of how this will affect my children and their happiness. Single parents also want to be loved and be in a relationship. The challenge is what if my partner can't live up to what he said he would do. This is another make or break moment in our relationship.
There is no right way of doing this. It is though time for the next step of our relationship. We have been seeing each other for some time and he knows that I have kids. He doesn't have kids of his own, but he's willing to take my whole package. Now it is time to deal with the reality of taking my whole package.
My whole life has been revolved around my children their happiness and ensuring they are comfortable. I have fears of how this will affect my children and their happiness. Single parents also want to be loved and be in a relationship. The challenge is what if my partner can't live up to what he said he would do. This is another make or break moment in our relationship.
Monday, May 2, 2011
Wedding cake in-the-middle-of-the-road.
What is the wedding cake doing in the middle of the road? It should be at the reception area, where it needs to be. The poor bride is worried about the wedding cake and its whereabouts. No bride ever dreams of a wedding without a wedding cake. This is part of the whole package, there's that romantic picture taken where the bride and groom are cutting the cake and feeding each other. Now the cake is missing in action, this is a nightmare!
Imagine the frustration going through the wedding planner, she cannot track down the cake and the bride is furious. Every bride imagines her day to be perfect, no glitches whatsoever! Everything that is thought of and planned to be there MUST be there, no compromise. Whoever dreams of having a cake from Spar because the original wedding cake is somewhere in the middle of the road? This is a special cake that takes time to make that you cannot just replace by buying any cake at Woolies.
This terrible memory will stay with the bride and groom forever. It is nothing, but love that will get them through this. They will definitely need to renew their vows with a wedding cake to remove this nightmare. Something so small as a wedding cake in-the-middle-of-the-road can ruin what is meant to be the best day of a woman's life.
Imagine the frustration going through the wedding planner, she cannot track down the cake and the bride is furious. Every bride imagines her day to be perfect, no glitches whatsoever! Everything that is thought of and planned to be there MUST be there, no compromise. Whoever dreams of having a cake from Spar because the original wedding cake is somewhere in the middle of the road? This is a special cake that takes time to make that you cannot just replace by buying any cake at Woolies.
This terrible memory will stay with the bride and groom forever. It is nothing, but love that will get them through this. They will definitely need to renew their vows with a wedding cake to remove this nightmare. Something so small as a wedding cake in-the-middle-of-the-road can ruin what is meant to be the best day of a woman's life.
What is a friend?
What are the characteristics of a good friend? Nowadays, the term friend is used loosely without knowing the meaning. It is important to differentiate between a friend and an acquintance. If you know a lot of people, it doesn't mean they are all your friends. A friend always knows what is happening in your life and your current challenges.
A person who is not happy and is envious when good things happen in your life, would you call that a friend? A friend should make you happy and encourage you to become a better person. A friend tells you the truth even when no-one is willing. It should give you compliments when it is due and add good values to your life.
As you grow older, it becomes easier to see friends that are fake and real. It is up to you to face up to that reality. Either you accept that you have one or two real friends or lie to yourself believing you have many friends. As the saying goes "When days are dark, friends are few". This is meant to show you reality of having friends.
A person who is not happy and is envious when good things happen in your life, would you call that a friend? A friend should make you happy and encourage you to become a better person. A friend tells you the truth even when no-one is willing. It should give you compliments when it is due and add good values to your life.
As you grow older, it becomes easier to see friends that are fake and real. It is up to you to face up to that reality. Either you accept that you have one or two real friends or lie to yourself believing you have many friends. As the saying goes "When days are dark, friends are few". This is meant to show you reality of having friends.
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