I am now faced with the next phase of the baby mama drama. This is introducing my partner to my kids. There are many things going through my mind. How will my kids react to this? Is the right time to do the introduction/ Are they ready for this? Is he ready for this? Is the timing right or should I do this later? What do I introduce him as uncle, mommy's boyfriend, mommy's colleague, mommy's friend, your future stepfather or just use his name? What if the relationship doesn't last? These are difficult questions to ponder.
There is no right way of doing this. It is though time for the next step of our relationship. We have been seeing each other for some time and he knows that I have kids. He doesn't have kids of his own, but he's willing to take my whole package. Now it is time to deal with the reality of taking my whole package.
My whole life has been revolved around my children their happiness and ensuring they are comfortable. I have fears of how this will affect my children and their happiness. Single parents also want to be loved and be in a relationship. The challenge is what if my partner can't live up to what he said he would do. This is another make or break moment in our relationship.
"This is another make or break moment in our relationship" this is very crucial moment because you will know as a mother, whether Sfiso does have a connection with the kids or not. If Sfiso loves u but not your kids. Than you move on his is not worth it.Your kids will always be your first priority!!!!!
ReplyDeleteYou are in a catch 22 my friend, but communicating with your kids when the time is right is the best thing to do. Only communicate with them when the decision is taken that you want to get married. Once he has proposed, speak to them and ask them how would they feel if mommy has a new friend and they have a new daddy. If he learns to love the kids the same way he loves you then from his side there won't be a problem.
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